xfs: fix reflink inefficiencies

As Dave Chinner has complained about on IRC, there are a couple of
things about reflink that are very inefficient.  First of all, we
limited the size of all bunmapi operations to avoid flooding the log
with defer ops in the worst case, but recent changes to the defer ops
code have solved that problem, so get rid of the bunmapi length clamp.

Second, the log reservations for reflink operations are far far larger
than they need to be.  Shrink them to exactly what we need to handle
each deferred RUI and CUI log item, and no more.  Also reduce logcount
because we don't need 8 rolls per operation.  Introduce a transaction
reservation compatibility layer to avoid changing the minimum log size
calculations.

v2: better document the use of EFIs to track when refcount updates
    should be continued in a new transaction, disentangle the alternate
    log space reservation code